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Relationships & Personal Life

We all want our relationships to be positive and successful - however, sometimes we may need to ask for help, support or protection.

Abusive or Violent Relationships

If you are affected by physical/emotional abuse or controlling/abusive behaviour in an intimate or family relationship and want more information on your options, please see the resources listed below:

  • Coventry Domestic Violence and Abuse Partnership

             Web: Safetotalk

             Helpline on 0800 035 5309

(Helpline open Monday to Friday 8:30am-8:30pm, and weekends, 9:30am-5:30pm).

  • National Domestic Violence Helpline


Tel: 0808 2000 247 (Freephone 24hour Helpline)


Consent is not something that you should ever forget, dismiss or take for granted.

Consent is necessary for all sexual activity. Consent to sexual acts is defined in the Sexual Offences Act 2003, the key elements of which are:

  • That a person agrees to the act by choice, and has freedom to make that choice.
  • Consent is comfortable, active, retractable, chosen, and an ongoing conversation. Consent is not assumed, pressured, expected, under the influence nor carried forward.

If you do not receive a clear ‘yes’ every time for every act, it does not constitute consent. There are no maybes, no blurred lines, and no compromises - you must have clear consent to sexually touch or penetrate somebody else.

When someone says ‘no’, that is not a tease – it is non-negotiable, and does not mean ‘later’ or ‘maybe’.

If you want more information about sexual consent, visit Pause Play Stop. To test your understanding of what sexual consent means, take their online quiz

If you are affected by any of the issues on this page or need help, please visit:

T: 0800 9700371 – or -


Tel: 02476 277777


  • Rape Crisis

Tel: 08088 029999


Tel: 02476 229292 – or -


  • Wellbeing Support Services

              Tel: 02476 575570


Also see the Counselling Services information page on sexual assault.

  • SU Advice Centre - on the second floor of SUHQ.

Forced Marriage

In a forced marriage, you are coerced into marrying someone against your will. You may be physically threatened or emotionally blackmailed in order to do so. This is an abuse of human rights and cannot be justified on any religious or cultural basis.

Forced marriage is not the same as an arranged marriage, where you have a choice as to whether to accept the arrangement or not. The tradition of arranged marriages has operated successfully within many communities and countries for a very long time.

If you are facing the prospect of a forced marriage or know someone who is, the Foreign and Commonwealth Office provides some valuable information from the Forced Marriages Unit on what to do.

Loss, Death & Grief

Losing someone close can be difficult. The University Counselling Service has some helpful information and links on their self-help resources here:

If you are affected by the death of someone, you should talk to your Personal Tutor/Supervisor or another relevant person in your Department so that you can receive help and support navigating any impact this may have on your studies. If your ability to study is affected, you may want to consider submitting Mitigating Circumstances.